Royally Rocky? Inside William and Harry’s Relationship Over the Years
A tale of two brothers.
and Prince William may be royalty, but their relationship may remind you of your own sibling. Prince Harry
“Their relationship is incredibly intimate,”
Princess Diana’s biographer in the November 2019 edition of Andrew Morton revealed Royals Monthly. “Nobody apart from each other knows exactly — not even their father — what’s gone on in their heads and their hearts for the last 20-odd years. They both experienced the loss of their mother. The only people that they could trust to talk about it in a candid way was each of them.”
William and Harry were 15 and 12 years old, respectively, when Diana died in a car accident in 1997.
As time went on, however, the brothers began to distance themselves from each other. Reports of a rift made headlines in 2018 after Harry and his wife,
, opted to Duchess Meghan move away from Nottingham Cottage in London to Frogmore Cottage in Windsor, England, which is further away from William and wife ’s home in Kensington Palace. The speculation was fueled in 2019 after the Duke and Duchess of Sussex split their royal charity from the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge. Duchess Kate
“It was always the case that when Prince Harry married, he would have his own household and his own home. It is traditional that when you marry, you get your own place and have your own household with your own private secretary, equerry [and] other court functionaries,” Morton said. “They’re very, very close … they’re also very competitive — and always have been.”
A source confirmed to
Us Weekly that the princes have “grown apart” over the years.
“William still cares about Harry and is hoping that he’ll open up to him about his current struggles,” the source said in October 2019. “William wants to be there for Harry and hates seeing him in such a bad place.”
A month later, another insider told
Us that things are “not great” between William and Harry. “They both need to put in the effort to rebuild their relationship,” the insider said in November 2019. “He doesn’t envy the responsibility that comes with being the future king of England, but William’s the ‘golden boy’ and Harry feels like he has a lot to live up to.”
Scroll through for a timeline of their relationship:
William and Harry will always be bonded by the loss of their mother.
“William and I can separate life into two parts. There are the years that we were blessed beside us with the physical presence of both our mother and father. And then there are the 10 years since our mother’s death,” Harry said during a speech on the 10-year anniversary of Diana’s passing. “She was our guardian, friend and protector. She never once allowed her unfaltering love for us to go unspoken or undemonstrated. Behind the media glare, to us, two children, she was quite simply the best mother in the world.”
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stood by his brother’s side at his wedding to in April 2011. After nearly stealing the show by whispering, “Wait till you see her,” to his brother before Kate walked down the aisle, Harry reportedly gushed about the couple during his speech, calling William “the perfect brother” and revealing he loved the duchess “like a sister.” Duchess Kate
Over the years, Harry seemingly
enjoyed attending royal engagements with William and Kate. The trio also launched their Heads Together campaign to eliminate the stigma surrounding mental health.
Harry credited William for helping him seek mental health counseling after struggling with Diana’s death in his adult life.
“It’s all about timing. And for me personally, my brother, you know, bless him, he was a huge support to me. He kept saying this is not right, this is not normal, you need to talk to [someone] about stuff, it’s OK,” Harry told
The Telegraph in April 2017. “I can safely say that losing my mum at the age of 12, and therefore shutting down all of my emotions for the last 20 years, has had a quite serious effect on not only my personal life but my work as well.”
William had nice things to say about Meghan when Harry first proposed to the former actress.
“We are very excited for Harry and Meghan,” the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge said in a statement at the time. “It has been wonderful getting to know Meghan and to see how happy she and Harry are together.”
went on to plan his brother’s stag party.
“Harry has several close guy friends, but there’s no way he would ask anyone but William to take on the top job,” the source told Us at the time.
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returned the favor and served as Harry’s best man when he married Meghan at St George’s Chapel in Windsor Castle in May 2018.
While many reports alleged that
Kate and Meghan weren’t on good terms, longtime royal filmmaker Nick Bullen claimed the rift was actually between William and Harry.
“All brothers fall out. All families fall out. Their fallout at the moment is becoming public,” Bullen told
Fox News in March 2019. “I think people don’t want to think about that with these two boys. These are two boys who lost their mother at a really early age, and the fairytale is that they are closer than ever and need each other, and I think that’s probably true. But equally they are two grown men in their 30s, starting their own families, different wives. They are moving to different parts of the country, different duties.”
Harry confirmed that he and William had a falling out during the ITV documentary
Harry & Meghan: An African Journey, revealing the siblings have “good days” and “bad days.”
“Part of this role and part of this job, this family, being under the pressure that it’s under, inevitably stuff happens,” he said. “But look, we’re brothers, we’ll always be brothers. We’re certainly on different paths at the moment but I’ll always be there for him and as I know he’ll always be there for me.”
Harry added: “We don’t see each other as much as we used to because we’re so busy, but I love him dearly.”
After Harry and Meghan announced their plans to skip Christmas with Queen Elizabeth II in November 2019, an insider told
Us that his rift with William was partly to blame for the decision.
“Harry and Meghan are having a small Christmas with just immediate family instead of spending it at Sandringham. The rift between William and Harry is one of the main reasons behind their decision,” the insider said. “As it’s Archie’s first Christmas, they want it to be super special.”
Harry’s pal and journalist
Tom Bradby gave more insight into the brother’s falling out during an appearance on Good Morning Britain in January 2020.
“There are lots of people, who would love there to be, including I think the brothers themselves, love them to be closer again. And with any luck that will happen,” Bradby said. “But with families, we all know stuff happens, things are said.”
Piers Morgan added that “having a family dispute in public can’t be easy,” Bradby agreed.
“And also a family dispute within a family firm,” he replied. “You are working in a big family firm, everyone has their wishes and desires and ambitions and if they have to be balanced up and it’s very hard.”
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An insider told
Us that Harry and Meghan “blindsided” William and Kate when they announced their decision to take a step back from their senior royal roles in January 2020.
“There’s still a rift between the two brothers,” the insider said, noting the Duke and Duchess of Sussex making their announcement the day before Kate’s 38th birthday “rubbed salt into the wounds.”
“It’s sad because when they were younger, William would be the first person Harry would go to with big news like this,” the source continued. “William is incredibly hurt, but at the same time he has his own family to focus on and is trying to move forward with his life.”
Richard Fitzwilliams added at the time that “the other royals didn’t know” about the “extraordinary” and “irresponsible” statement.
A source told
Us in February 2020 that William and Harry have only spoken “a couple of times” about “business matters” since the Duke and Duchess of Sussex moved to Canada.
“Harry’s more sensitive and emotional than William – he takes everything so personally. He can be rather impulsive at times,” a second source said. “Harry wants the world to know that no one should suffer in silence, which is why he opened up about Princess Diana and going to therapy. He doesn’t let things let things get to him, like Harry does. That’s not to say William has a heart of steel — he’s actually an incredibly loving and kind man, he just has a different way of dealing with emotions and is more level-headed than his brother.”
The two brothers and their respective wives saw each other at a public event for the first time on March 9, 2020, at the Commonwealth Day Service. While all eyes were on the two couples at the televised event, William and Kate barely acknowledged Harry and Meghan when they said hello
before the service started at Westminster Abbey.
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